Two dozen cedar waxwings landed on a tree in our neighbor’s backyard. My husband and I shared binoculars back and forth, admiring their markings and the rare opportunity to witness a museum’s migration. [Yes, a flock of waxwings is called a museum.]
In researching these birds, we discovered a sweet behavior. Waxwings share the red berries they eat and have even been cited passing one, beak to beak, down an entire line of birds. It’s also part of the mating ritual for a male to give a berry to a female, she to give it back to him, and so on, until she finally accepts it and, presumably, him.
The appearance of a generous, community-based species at this moment in time underscored a new level of selflessness to which I’m feeling called lately. It’s a level of letting go that’s neither easy nor comfortable. In fact, for me, it’s quite the challenge.
This release of self is at the level of the ego—the keeper of opinions, judgments, and thoughts, with a “my will be done” approach. It often operates out of fear, particularly fear of loss. And it doesn’t have to be overinflated to the point of arrogance to cause unhappiness, disharmony or agitation.
I’d use the term egoism to describe my experience. When I’m preoccupied with myself and my own learning experiences, I adopt an Emma-centric view of the universe. For example, it’s easy for me to take things personally, obsess about having offended someone, judge others and myself too harshly, or see the world through the limited lens of my past.
I understand that this is common human behavior. And I’ve learned to be kind to myself while I grow and mature. But this ego-mechanism can interfere with being a clear channel of service to grace and love.
We all get to choose our thoughts and behaviors as well as our goals. My mission is to be available to serve all life, moment by moment. If I insist on seeing through the narrow viewfinder of my own mind, if I criticize myself or others, or if I buy into a fear of survival or failure, I risk losing this core purpose.
So, for me, now is a time of going more silent. I know some believe that not speaking out or not engaging in socio-political dialogue is a cop out, or even indicates complicity with criminal behavior. I’d rather give freedom to those who hold their own opinions while I research a deeper way to serve humanity.
Perhaps I’m simply saying that I aspire to be more like the waxwing, silently passing a red berry to my neighbor.
Photo by Gary Bendig on Unsplash
Comments:
Isn't it amazing what nature teaches us? Love that term "vibrant reminder." Thanks for posting, Cléone!
Such exemplary behaviour! I shall be keeping this close to me as a vibrant reminder. Thank you for this gem, Emma.
I agree, Lana. We can learn so much from the natural world about how to live in harmony. Thanks for posting.
So glad, Mary Ann, that this landed at the right moment for you. Lots of reactiveness, understandably, to the world stage. Your beingness serves. It's said that Silent Ones are unlimited in their expression. Thanks for posting. With love, Emma
Thank you Emma, this is lovely and these birds are living their lives in a manner all people should strive to emulate. 💙💛💙
Thank you Emma for this timely, essential post today which was a confirmation for me after receiving an email that was like an arrow to my heart when I read it. Caught me ‘off guard.’ A family member reacting to the political drama. That was yesterday. This morning I regard the experience a gift which is enabling me to recognize and listen to that essential part of my Being, and...to not react...for to do so takes me off the path of love and service and spiritual freedom. To be silent and in that silence I serve all life. Love the wax wing examples! Beautifully told. Much love always, Maryann
Thank you for saying so, dear Peggy.
Thank you, dear Emma, for this beautiful message this morning. It went straight to my heart. With love & gratitude...